A Rite of Passage is a ceremony that marks the transition from one phase of life to another. Although it is often used to describe the tumultuous transition from adolescence to adulthood, it also refers to any of life's transitions (Births and Beginnings, Initiations, Partnerings, and Endings or Death).
There are many passages in our lives if we choose to mark and celebrate them. Having a journey of hardships in relationships are most focused on initiatory rites of passage. I consider my journey as such for I openly received all the initiations being given to me. And there were so many in and around this relationship.
I invite you not to fear. To find it in you to pass through knowing that all is happening not to you but for you. For you to become that wise sage, that Lover, that great heart that you are. And your significant other can be that portal in which you create this Rite of Passage.